Title: What is Behind the Orgasm Gender Gap. Online Survey Peraza Godoy, MF. . Healthy Pleasure Collective

Abstract:

Currently data show that heterosexual cisgender women have less orgasmic occurrence than men and that women with other sexual orientations. Apparently the orgasmic gap is social and cultural based rather than biological, deepened or explained by the pornographic model of female sexuality that prevails in the collective imageryy where the focus isintercourse and the idea that all women should obtain pleasure mainly from coitus dismissing the most common form which is from clitoral stimulation. Research indicates ignorance and the educational imprint on female sexuality does not allow women to validate their sexual needs and desires. Historically women have given power, control with the language of sex and handed the responsibility of their pleasure to men; because the words they use to talk about female sexuality do not include them and do not include the permission to feel pleasure either. Until a point where heterosexual woman needs to see an erect penis to verify, that she is desired and to loudly fake orgasms to maintain the status quo and avoid hurting the male ego. Wanting to know a little about the orgasmic occurrence in a heterogeneous random women group, We decided to launch an online survey-Google Form- called in English/ Spanish for men/women. Single and multiple selection questionnaire .The diffusion was mainly through social media platforms during May to July 2019. We show results as percentage distribution. We got 242 answers. 198 heterosexual cisgender women included for this partial results: Mean age 32.69 years. 99% of women consider that nurturing and feeling sexual pleasure is related to health and well-being. 86% consider that sexual pleasure is related to self-esteem and self-image. 69% acknowledge having orgasms; 4.45% of women cannot recognize if they have ever felt an orgasm; 64% have faked orgasms. 31% Believe that if there is no intercourse, the relationship is not considered complete and 31% believe that intercourse is the main way to obtain orgasms. 71% consider that female orgasms are a couple issue. 75% masturbate. 23% get orgasms with masturbation and intercourse alone or with a partner. 31% reach orgasms only with masturbation (alone or with a partner-not with intercourse) 8% get orgasms only with intercourse. An interesting fact is that 42% of women who consider that sexual pleasure is related to well-being and health and that is related to self-esteem and self-image faked orgasms. The reasons why women faked orgasms: 21% to end quickly, 20% because they believe that it is important for their partners to believe that they have had an orgasm. 5% Do not know how to reach an orgasm within a sexual encounter with a partner. 9% do not know how to communicate or talk about their sexual needs and desires. 5% believe that their partner would be upset if they know that they have not reached orgasm. The results are comparable to those published in other series, However, the dissonance between the importance of health concept, well-being and sexual pleasure with the percentages of orgasmic occurrence and reasons why orgasms are feigned, are flashy. As well as the top report of women who masturbate 75% with respect to those who reach orgasms 69%. We ask ourselves: Does the woman have other negative distracting factors that we are not taking into account? Or, perhaps the need for external validation from the couple overcomes the need to take responsibility for their own pleasure? Or that simply the concept of sexual pleasure and well-being is not incorporated as its own and conceived as outsourced to the male partner? Because why end quickly if it is a pleasant intimate encounter? Many questions and new perspectives could be discussed. More studies are needed.